Sabotaging a twin flame relationship can occur through both words and actions. One or both partners can create huge problems out of nothing. They can break up for no real reason.
There are so many ways to sabotage a relationship, and twin flames can get very creative. It keeps the relationship from moving forward and causes a myriad of issues.
So what can you do if your spiritual partner is sabotaging your relationship?
SABOTAGING ON PURPOSE?
The first thing to keep in mind is your twin flame is fully aware they’re sabotaging your relationship. What they may not know, or be unwilling to admit, is why. They’re reacting to an emotion, whether it’s fear, jealousy, insecurity or whatever. This emotion triggers a reaction that is a form of self-sabotage. This is not letting them off the hook.
When they sabotage the relationship, they hurt you both. They need to seek professional help to get to the root cause of their behavior. (If their own inner work is not creating positive change and healing.) In the meantime, you have to make sure you don’t enable or excuse their actions.
If your partner is purposely trying to cause trouble and drama, it’s best not to engage with them. Now is the time to pull back and take care of yourself. Don’t feed the drama monster, otherwise it comes back repeatedly for more food. No one wants that. So when they’re acting out, find someplace else to be.
If it’s a controlling behavior, your best course of action is to nip it in the bud. They don’t need to micromanage every part of your life, and your relationship. You may think letting them get their way to avoid confrontation is the way to go. It’s not. That is enabling and that is the last thing you want to do.
You’re both adults. You are not their child, and they are not your parent. You’re supposed to be partners, and that’s the dynamic your relationship needs. You don’t need a boss, you need to work together as a team. Create your boundaries and challenge their attempt at controlling everything.
CREATING TWIN FLAME SABOTAGE
If your spiritual partner is too busy holding grudges for mistakes you made in the past, they’re creating roadblocks for your future. Now surely they expect you to forgive and forget all of their mistakes and shortcomings. But when it comes to yours, they seem to be burned into their memory.
So when they do something wrong and you point it out, they point the finger back at you to deflect. Of course they want you to forget or get over their mistake. They will never stop doing this until you take a stand with them. They must let the past go, or you don’t see a future going forward.
That may sound harsh, but it’s the truth.
If you can’t speak the truth in your relationship, what the hell are you doing in it? Don’t sabotage the relationship yourself by being afraid to stand strong to make the relationship better.
Another common method undermining a relationship is when one partner passively aggressively withdraws too long or too often. They know at some point this is going to piss you off and cause an argument. There has to be a conversation to find a compromise.
If your twin flame is going through a rough patch, agree to give them space. But let them know you won’t allow their rough patch to become yours. You’re willing to help them, but if they don’t want your help, leave them alone. You will give them their space but they can’t leave you in limbo. So decide what works for the both of you, even if it’s just a text every 24 hours saying they’re OK.
If you’re in a committed relationship you don’t get to withdraw from it for weeks and months on end.
Either be a partner or go be single. Again, might sound harsh, but so are break-ups. No one should use a spiritual connection to take advantage of someone. To disappear, knowing they’re worried and upset for no good reason, is cruel.
When your twin flame takes too long to get over a fight, or refuses to apologize when they screw up, they’re sabotaging your relationship. If you don’t hold them accountable when they’re wrong, you’re teaching them a bad lesson. You’re telling them this behavior is acceptable and they’re not responsible for cleaning up their own mess. You are also teaching them you aren’t worth an apology.
Does that sound like a good idea? Does this sound like you two are on a spiritual path? This is lower level behavior, and way off any spiritual path. (In a way, you are aided and abetting them in sabotaging your relationship when you let too much slide.)